Biblical Marriage (The Roles by God's Rules)

Hi! It's so nice to be able to have a few quiet moments before the house wakes to get a few words down. 

I hope you are well, and loving his return.

Let's jump right in. 

Rule #1 in God's rules for our biblical roles. Marriage is a process and it takes patience. Patience not only with eachother but also with ourselves. 

Hebrews 5:12 KJV

For when for the time ye ought to be teachers, ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the oracles of God; and are become such as have need of milk, and not of strong meat.

God has an expectation for us to grow spiritually. We are to be looking and moving forward and not looking back. When we are new babies spiritually we need a little at a time to grow(milk). A little understanding of scripture. As we grow In Christ we need more meat, more doctrine etc. In the same aspect we should always be growing in our marriage. We have to be patient, yes, but that's not an excuse for stagnation. Do not allow the enemy to discourage you. If we apply the Word in our marriage we will grow. 

2 Corinthians 10:12 KJV

For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.

By comparing or marriage with another or our spouse with another we stunt or growth. This is wonderfully simple truth and wisdom from God's Word. 

Rule #2 Communication with one another is Key.  Just like to have a relationship with God we need to keep open the relation lines. 

1 Thessalonians 5:17 KJV

Pray without ceasing.

We can't just put up walls, or get offended and choose not to communicate. This is a choice to go down the path of destruction. 

Talking isn't your thing? It really doesn't matter, that is just an excuse. This is where we grow and stretch. We have to get uncomfortable sometimes. Ladies, we need to take all things to our husbands, just as we need to take all things to Christ. 

A couple more verses to think about in the regard of communication.

Philippians 2:3-4 KJV

Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. [4] Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

It doesn't work if you just need to be heard right? You have something to say but are unwilling to listen. Imagine, each esteeming the other better. Actually listening to what they are saying and understanding what they are thinking. 

1 Corinthians 7:5 KJV

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Have you seen this one?! If you aren't communicating you won't be doing any love making. Right? Look how the Lord is making sure we protect our selves and our spouse from temptation. So very important. 

Ok, and lastly...

Rule #3 of God's Rules for our Roles. The responsibilities are not weapons.

Proverbs 15:1 KJV

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

We are not to allow these things/words, responsibilities to him physically etc to be used by Satan to be a stumbling block. We have probably all seen it in movies, I'm gonna "cut him off" till I get what I want. 

Doesn't sound like loving and biblical, but more like manipulative.

My biggest focused should be on staying on task and completing my role, not making sure he is completing his role or visa versa. 

Now my husband and I were brought through these biblical marriage lessons right in the middle of our discipleship lessons. We had to stop discipleship, because those sweet people noticed we needed this first. I'm so very Greatful because these lessons transformed our marriage. We are still growing all the time. Now that you have been properly introduced to your biblical roles according to God's rules we will continue next time with LESSON#1 (Your relationship with Christ)

I pray that you are all ready to receive the wonderful things the Lord has in store for you. It is never an accident that you come upon the Truth of His Word. 

Love and Peace to you all. 

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